You Are Not a Problem to Fix: Honoring Your Unique Ayurvedic Recipe
This world can be harsh. Each year brings a new trend, a new standard, a new expectation that demands we shape-shift our bodies, personalities, and lifestyles to fit it. We're told to shrink, tone, lift, or smooth ourselves to match ideals crafted in boardrooms, not born from wisdom. We’re sold fixes for problems we never knew we had until someone told us we were broken.
But you are not broken.
And you were never meant to fit a mold.
In Ayurveda, we see each person as a unique combination of the three doshas: Vata, Pitta, and Kapha. These are the building blocks of life—the elemental forces that govern everything from your digestion to your thoughts. Your specific blend, or Prakriti, is your original nature, the cosmic recipe that shaped you before you were born.
Prakriti: Your Sacred Recipe
Prakriti (pronounced PRAH-krit-tee) isn't made from life experiences. It’s the subtle, intelligent design of your body, mind, and spirit. It’s a combination of genetics and ancient cosmic intelligence that formed your constitution when you were stardust. While it can influence personality, it goes deeper—it is how you are built.
Each of us has all three doshas, but in different proportions. Think of them like ingredients in a recipe. One person may be more fiery (Pitta), another more airy (Vata), and another more earthy (Kapha). Most of us are a blend. Your goal isn't to become like someone else or reach some generic balance. Your goal is to honor your recipe.
Nature isn’t beautiful because it conforms. It’s beautiful because of its wild, radiant diversity. You don’t look at a forest and wish the oak trees were more like the pine. You don’t ask the rose to bloom like the sunflower. And yet, we often ask ourselves to fit into narrow ideals, shaped by trends, media, and impossible wellness standards that were never meant to hold the full truth of who you are.
Manufactured Beauty vs. Authentic Nature
Part of what pulls us away from our true nature is a carefully crafted illusion.
We are surrounded by images of beauty that have been engineered. Layered in makeup, filtered through lenses, Photoshopped, and now increasingly altered by AI. These images are often supported by teams of estheticians, trainers, stylists, and surgeons. They don’t represent reality. They represent an industry designed to profit from our insecurities.
When we compare ourselves to these polished projections, we begin to think that we are the problem. That our skin, our body, our pace, our temperament need fixing.
But nature doesn’t work that way.
A daisy doesn’t apologize for not being a rose. The moon doesn’t try to glow like the sun. You, too, were never meant to look, act, or live like anyone else. The wisdom of Ayurveda doesn’t ask you to chase a beauty trend. It asks you to remember who you are.
You are most radiant not when you fit in, but when you align with your original design.
Many of Us Are Living in Our Imbalance
Here’s the tricky part: many of us have become so accustomed to living in a state of imbalance that we think it's just who we are. The anxious Vata may think, "I’ve always been this way." The irritable Pitta may say, "I just have a temper." The sluggish Kapha may believe, "I'm just lazy."
But these aren't personality flaws. They are signs that your current state, your Vikriti (Vih-krit-tee), has drifted from your true nature. Vikriti is your current imbalance. It can change based on stress, diet, season, trauma, or habits. And it can be rebalanced.
Each dosha has its radiant, balanced qualities:
Vata is not scatterbrained and anxious. Vata, in balance, is creative, intuitive, and filled with imagination.
Pitta is not angry or aggressive. Pitta, in balance, is a passionate leader, discerning, focused, and courageous.
Kapha is not lazy or stuck. Kapha, in balance, is nurturing, calm, stable, and deeply compassionate.
These are the aspects of yourself that feel natural and fulfilling. When you are living from a place of balance, you feel like you. When you're disconnected, it's often because you're living in your imbalance, not your truth.
You Are Not a Problem to Fix
If you've ever looked at a dosha chart and thought, "I'm doing everything wrong," please pause.
You are not wrong.
You are not a problem to fix.
You are simply a person with a beautiful original design who may be temporarily out of sync.
The solution is not punishment or discipline.
It's curiosity. It's kindness. It's learning the language of your body and honoring its messages.
Begin with Compassionate Curiosity
So how do you begin?
Not with a cleanse. Not with rules. But with observation.
When do I feel most like myself?
What foods or environments make me feel ungrounded, agitated, or heavy?
When did I start feeling off-balance?
These questions help you move from judgment into inquiry. From reaction into relationship.
Ayurveda isn't a prescriptive set of rules. It's a conversation with your own nature. One that invites you to soften, listen, and return to yourself.
Let Your Healing Be an Act of Love
This week, try treating yourself as someone worth listening to. Not fixing. Not improving. Just listening.
Return to your breath.
Eat slowly and warmly.
Rest without guilt.
Speak kindly to the parts of you that feel overwhelmed or exhausted.
You are not a project.
You are a person, crafted by stardust, remembered through rhythm, and worthy of deep compassion.
You are not here to fit into a mold.
You are here to honor your nature.
And your unique Ayurvedic recipe is not a flaw. It's your path home.
A Final Word: Don't Shrink to Fit, Expand to Thrive
As you explore Ayurveda, be mindful not to box yourself into a single dosha identity. While one dosha may be predominant, your care must reflect all of who you are. A person with 80% Pitta, 10% Vata, and 10% Kapha will have different needs than someone with 70% Pitta, 20% Kapha, and 10% Vata.
You are a full recipe, not a single ingredient.
If you want support in uncovering your Prakriti and learning how to align your life with your unique nature, consider scheduling a Prakriti assessment with me. Let's discover your natural design together, with love, respect, and empowerment.
